I can’t imagine why anybody is surprised to hear when I say I miss life in the Soviet Union: what is bad about free healthcare and education, guaranteed employment, guaranteed free housing? No rent or mortgage of any kind, only utilities, but they were subsidized too, so it was really pennies. Now, to be honest, there was a waiting list to get those apartments, so some people got them quicker, some people had to wait for years, it all depended on where you worked. And there were no homeless people, and crime was way lower. As a first grader I was taking the public transportation to go to school, which was about 1 hour away by bus (it was a big city, about the size of Washington DC, we lived on the outskirts, and my school was downtown), and it was fine, all other kids were doing it. Can you even imagine this being done now? I am not saying everything was perfect, but overall, it is a more stable and socially just system, fair to everybody, nobody was left behind. This is what I miss: peace and stability, and not being afraid of the future.
Problem is, nobody believes it, they will say that I am a brainwashed “tovarish” [comrade]. I’ve tried to argue with Americans about this before, but just gave up now. They just refuse to believe anything that contradicts what CNN has been telling them for all their lives. One lady once told me: “You just don’t know what was going on there, because you did not have freedom of speech, but we, Americans, knew everything, because we could read about all of this in our media.” I told her “I was right there! I did not need to read about this in the media, I lived that life!”, but she still was unconvinced! You will not believe what she said: “Yes, maybe, but we have more stuff!”. Seriously, having 50 kinds of cereal available in the store, and walmarts full of plastic junk is more valuable to Americans than a stable and secure life, and social justice for everybody?
Of course there are people who lived in the Soviet Union who disagree with me, and I talked to them too, but I find their reasons just as silly. I heard one Russian lady whose argument was that Stalin killed “30, no 40 million people”. First of all it’s not true (I don’t in any way defend Stalin, but I do think that lying and exaggerating about him is as wrong)*, and second of all what does this have to do with the 70s, when I was a kid? By then life was completely different. I heard other arguments, like food shortages (again, not true, it’s not like there was no food at all, there were shortages of this or that specific product, like you wouldn’t find mayo or bologna in the store some days, but everything else was there!). So, you would come back next day, or in 2-3 days, and you would find them there. Really, this is such a big deal? Or you would have to stay in line to buy some other product, (ravioli for example). But how badly do you want that ravioli really that day, can’t you have anything else instead? Just buy something else, like potatoes, where there was no line.
Was this annoying, yes, and at the time I was annoyed too, but only now I realized that I would much prefer this nuisance to my present life now, when I am constantly under stress for the fear that I can possibly lose my job (as my husband already did), and as a result, lose everything else – my house? You couldn’t possibly lose your house in Soviet Union, it was yours for life, mortgage free. Only now, living here in the US, I realized that all those soviet nuisances combined were not as important as the benefits we had – housing, education, healthcare, employment, safe streets, all sort of free after school activities (music, sports, arts, anything you want) for kids, so parents never had to worry about what we do all day till they come home in the evening."
This isn’t going to be very polished or well put-together because I have better things to do with my time, but I have some things to say about the damn thing that I haven’t heard anyone else say. So here we go:
I have a tricky relationship with social media. I have this tumblr, and I have my twitter feed, and I have a wordpress blog that I’ll probably be taking down in the near future. I don’t have a facebook. You won’t find me active on any real-life based social media whatsoever. My youtube account isn’t linked to a Google+, is just for watching videos, and my full name isn’t shown online.
This is because I have a stalker. My stalker keeps tabs on every single place online my name is listed. Like classmates.com, any people-searching site, linkedin, mylife, even goodreads. Things that I’ve tried to delete or change my name on, and am blessedly lucky my current contact info isn’t displayed on them. Things that you just sort of GET when you’re active online for a long time. I don’t even remember making accounts on any of those sites. But they’re there.
Social media sites that link up multiple online accounts are automatically unsafe in reference to privacy. I know this from my own attempts trying to locate my birth father & his family, and in my constant quest to keep myself fairly anonymous online. Additionally, google+ encourages you to use your real life name or email (which I have in my name). If I was to link my youtube to a google+, not only would I be vulnerable on google+ itself, but you would be able to find my youtube through it, and vice versa.
And now I’m slowly being locked out of using youtube as google pushes + on users more and more. I’m ready for the day when I literally cannot log in to youtube without creating/linking a google+ account, and that will be the day I stop logging into youtube.
It is literally unsafe for me to use google+, and I am not the only one with privacy concerns. It’s not even RARE. It is EXTREMELY difficult to stay anonymous online, to not have contact info available, to keep your accounts separate. I am lucky. My stalker is not nearly as tech-saavy or capable or incessant as many others. Many, many other people have online privacy needs. These are not small concerns. They are not petty, or irrelevant.
I have no grandiose ideas about this post changing anything. But I’ve not heard any one else talking about this specific poisonous aspect of google+, and I know I am not the only person online or even that I know with similar concerns.
Important concerns that Google seems to have completely ignored or, more likely, not even thought about. Not everyone wants to use a birth name online (most of my friends I know by their screennames, especially in internet subcultures), and it’s not the first time Google’s stonewalled (and worse!) on this.
It’s a shame and a huge oversight since Google was built by the same sorts of geeks who use screen-names. It means a lot of people end up keeping a google plus for “professional” stuff and never actually using it — I know it’s one reason I don’t use it much myself.